Unfortunately all of us don’t have the luxury of meeting our significant other in a fitness facility and sharing a love of fitness and health but that’s perfectly fine. Working out is a way of life. It doesn’t matter when in life it becomes a ‘way of life’ so don’t think there’s a time limit. For the sake of the simplicity of this article, I’ll refer to your significant other as ‘partner’. When you are a fitness buff and your partner isn’t, that can sometimes cause unwanted issues in the relationship/marriage. It can cause things such as unnecessary anger, stress, jealousy, self-esteem issues, and even cheating. Sad huh? Don’t worry, one thing I’ve found is that fitness can be contagious to your lover IF done properly.
So how is it done?
The key is to make sure that you don’t make your partner feel bad about not working out or being fit, it’s also important not to pressure them. You have to lead by example and be suggestive and sneaky in a way. Perhaps the most important aspect is to always maintain a constant level of love. NEVER make your partner feel worthless even if you think they’ve put on too much weight. Continue to tell them how beautiful or handsome you think they are and how much you love him or her. As always, if you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all!
Now let’s get to business! First off remember that your actions speak louder than your words. So just continuing to workout and being consistent is very important. What could happen from this is that he or she may actually be impressed by your actions and even your results and start working out themselves.
Secondly, invite your partner to work out with you EVERY NOW AND THEN. I put that in all caps because it’s important that you don’t ask them every single day because then you’re pressuring them and that can send the wrong signal. Start out by asking once every two weeks. Make sure you ask in a ‘if you feel like it’ tone and if they reject then that’s perfectly fine and you should act as such. The hope is that they will join you every now and then.
Third, pull out the bag of tricks! If you have dogs, go to the park together and walk around the park a few times, it’s intimate and you’re working out! Go out more on the weekends and walk around the shopping plazas and mall. You can even buy a fitness band for the both of you and compete against each other to see who could get the most steps each week. Offer incentives such as the loser washes dishes for a whole week or pays for dinner on the next outing….something to make it interesting. Invite your lover to play games that are somewhat physical but just appear to be a nice fun couples outing such as playing basketball, tennis, swimming, skating, etc. Things that can be seen as fun but give you a good workout.
Next, begin to be a little more suggestive regarding what foods and snacks you buy at the grocery store (if you’re not already). If the bad food isn’t in the house, then who will eat it? Try to lean more towards healthy choices. Last but not least, compromise! Maybe the problem is that your partner doesn’t like going to the gym and even feels embarrassed. Change your workout regimen a little and volunteer to workout from home a few days out of the week. You both can workout to a workout video. You can even get creative and let them buy a workout DVD of their choice. You could even walk around the park a few miles together instead of going to the gym. This shows that you support them and that it’s not all about you.
Well that’s all I have! I’d like to reiterate that the most important thing to remember is that you never pass judgement, never decrease your level of love towards your partner, and never pressure them. Feel free to leave a comment if you found this article useful or if you have any other ideas you’d like to share 🙂 !